The gay couple who tied the knot in a traditional Zulu and Tswana wedding while dressed in traditional attire say they will not be fazed by the criticism being aimed at them by social network users and Zulu culture experts.
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Sithole, a Zulu from KwaDukuza, and Tshepo Modisane, a Tswana from
Johannesburg, tied the knot on Saturday in KwaDukuza with about 200
people, including family, friends, onlookers and the media in
attendance.
Sithole and Modisane, both 27, defended their wedding and said there was nothing evil or untraditional about it.
The
Gay Couple Took a Kiss Professor Velaphi Mkhize, a Zulu traditional
culture analyst and writer, said Zulu culture did not recognise
homosexuality, therefore, traditionally, Modisane and Sithole’s marriage
was void.
“In
the olden days there were homosexuals, but when a gay child was born
the family used to slaughter an animal to plead with the ancestors to
intervene and take the evil spirit away from the child.”
“However,
now the constitution recognises homosexuality and gay marriages and the
biggest challenge we are facing is how do we continue to call something
a taboo if it is recognised by the constitution.”
He
said the marriage was an insult to Zulu forefathers because marriage
was traditionally a way to expand the family. Wives were expected to
give birth to children who would carry their families’ names forward.
Homosexuality made this impossible, said Mkhize.
However, Sithole, an IT specialist based in Johannesburg, said:
“If
being gay is evil, why did God create gay people? Gays are born gay and
according to a Bible scripture we were all created by God, so I don’t
see anything evil about being born gay because it means that God wanted
you to be gay.”
Modisane said they did not need to justify their wedding to the public because it was only between them, and to make them happy.
“We
decided to have a traditional wedding because we firstly wanted to show
people that being homosexual can be part of an African culture.
“Secondly,
we wanted to celebrate the love we have for each other and show people
that we don’t feel ashamed for the choices we have made in our lives,”
said Modisane, who works as a chartered accountant in Johannesburg.
The couple said the support they had received from their families made it easier for them to tie the knot.
“My
family has always been there for me and had always been there for me
even in my previous homosexual relationships,” said Modisane.
Sithole said his mother had always told him how she was looking forward to seeing him getting married to his partner.
They started dating in 2011 after they had been friends for some time.
Modisane
said he was attracted to Sithole because he was a well-grounded man who
loved God and was someone who could bring stability in his life.
Sithole
said their next step after the wedding was buying a home and starting
their own family. “We are fully committed to each other and we believe
children form an important foundation in bringing stability in one’s
life,” he said. “We will be adopting two kids – a boy and a girl – to be
part of our family.”
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